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B E PATIENT

2006-02-14T13:26:00.000+08:00

This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital.

Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, " Daddy,I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "but when are my fingers going to grow back?" The father went home & committed
suicide.

Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge. Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.

People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.

P ERSONAL PERCEPTION

2006-02-14T13:25:00.000+08:00

Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home,a boy commented, "Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey?"Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, "The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?" Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.

Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, "How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman."
The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you." Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders.

It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future.

Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear..

R IGHT SPEECH

2006-02-14T13:23:00.000+08:00

There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other,we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.

A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted,"Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school." On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me.Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker." She answered ,"You should appreciate that you married me. Otherwise, he will be the millionaire and not you."

Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.

NO OVERPOWERING

2006-02-14T13:19:00.000+08:00

Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another,or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character."

It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.

It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations..

NO POINTING FINGERS

2006-02-10T12:43:00.000+08:00

A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?"
The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you."

We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.

If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.

TRUST

2006-02-07T10:53:00.000+08:00

TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.

A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call. She answered, "Public Utilities Board." There was silence. She repeated, "PUB." There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she Heard a lady's voice, "Oh, so this is PUB.Sorry , I got the number from my Husband's pocket but I do not know whose
number it is."

Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just "hello" instead of "PUB".

学习（二）

2005-11-17T14:18:00.001+08:00

任何生物，都具备学习能力，甚至包括了冰冷如霜的机器。
通常，学习方法可被归类为督导，无督导，及赏罚。

督导性学习，就像我手里拿着一颗青苹果，然后，我告诉你，这是一颗苹果，而且，它的颜色是青。过后，我再让你接触了一些不同大小的青苹果。从此以后，你便知道青苹果，及青色是为何物了。

无督导性学习，就像我手里拿着另一堆苹果，里头有红及青的，但我并没告诉你，那红色的物体是什么东西。但由于你已经知道苹果的洋貌了，所以，你猜那红色的，也属于苹果一类的。

赏罚性学习，就像我手里有一堆水果，我告诉你，如果你能辨认出那些是苹果，我便给你一分；反之，扣一分。经过几轮的尝试后，想必你对苹果的概念会加深吧！

人，从出生到老，都会经历这三种学习过程，很多时候，在不同的状况地下，不一样的方式将告诉你不一样的体验。

学习（一）舍-得-成-长

2005-10-03T23:38:00.000+08:00

学习，是我秉持的一种习惯。
学会争取，学会放手，学会释怀，学会珍惜，是我近十个月内所得到的，
这过程，是丰富多彩的，而这四个字，带出的是喜，悲交错的心情。。。
我无法透过文字，来描绘我当时，及过后的感觉，只有真正体会过，才能了解。
人的一生，总有很多交叉点，有些对我们无丝毫的影响，但有的，却是相反的，
但所选择的，并没有所谓的对与错，因为那只是人生的一段路程，只要懂得如何去从中学习，
你，才会成长。

explain or not

2005-10-01T10:44:00.000+08:00

if somebody mis-understood you, would you explain?
before this, my answer is yes.
but now, my answer is no.
when somebody have such thinking, it is very hard (but possible) to turn them.
imagine...
you are doing something based on your judgement at time t1, your context is c1.
but when somebody else come and look at it, their time is t2, and their context is c2. certainly, t1 != t2 and c1 != c2. At this point, we can't say that either c1 or c2 is good or bad.
In short, in different timeframe and context, a thing will have very much different feel towards us. This, direct or indirectly, will affect how we look at them. In history, these things always happen. The historical ppl die already, so they can't explain. But who is going to explain or judge?? today living ppl. but all of them come out with different conclusion, that have very different similarity.

important year in my past 24

2005-10-01T10:36:00.000+08:00

in year 2005, i had underwent a lot of different things..
it is not correct to categorize them as good or bad stuff..
but in my view, all those things brought me a lot of changes... inside my soul..
as what i mentioned before, this is the road i chose to take.
i will value them forever, b'coz they will be part of my life...

The Road Not Taken

2005-03-16T13:28:00.000+08:00

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;

Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,

And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads onto way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence;
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I -
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.

Robert Frost [1916]

学习的态度

2005-03-09T12:58:00.000+08:00

“学习的速度如果快过改变的速度，那就没有问题；如果相反的话，问题可大了。您将不知道如何去面对改变。”

英国知名讲师彼得哈尼博士说，在现今这个时代里，学习变得更为重要，因为这是一个快速改变、更多竞争、更少工作机会、期望提高和更多责任的社会。

他认为，一个人的学习加上他本身的行为，就决定了他的表现。不过，每个人展现出来的行为，其实只是冰山一角，在水面下的，其实是一个人的知识、想法、态度、感觉、信仰、价值观、角色、个性等。

彼得哈尼博士认为，一般人学习，都会经历4个循环的过程，起点是“经历一件事情”、接着是“评价经验”、“从经验中得出结论”、“计划下一步”。不同的人可能会从不同的起点开始，而且不同性格的人，会有不同的循环过程：有人只喜欢经历事情，却从来没有评价、结论和计划；有人只会在评价和结论之前来回，不过，都是别人的经验，自己却不肯亲自体验。

他说，要把企业转型为学习机构，必须有一群经理，创造出一个大力鼓励持续学习和发展的行为的大环境。一些会降低学习能力的行为，如提出无用意见、太过小心翼翼、指责他人、忙碌、保守等，都是应该从组织中去除的行为。

彼得哈尼博士是英国知名的心理学家，曾经在福特汽车、英国航空公司任职，目前自立出版社，所写的著作有20本。

摘自: 南洋网电子商机 2005/03/07

梦想的距离

2005-03-07T12:09:00.000+08:00

我无法很主观地说，每个人都有梦想，
但我却很清楚知道，我要的是什么。

最基本的，我要我身边所爱的人，
都能过着舒适，安逸的生活，
这些人，主要就包括了珊珊，我的父母，及珊珊的父母
但这梦想，可行吗？我相信，能的；
但这又需要多久的时间呢? 五年，十年，还是二十年？
重要的是，当那一天到来时，
我还能与他们一起分享那成果吗？
所以，这距离该放多远呢？
想想，想想，再想想，始终还是遥不可及；
实践，实践，再实践，才是唯一的踏实方法。

选择，相信，决定，努力

2005-03-03T13:29:00.000+08:00

偶尔，会想想，今日的我，是当时的那个选择而造成的呢？

自中五毕业后，我有三个选择，升中六，进拉曼，还是独个儿到马六甲的多媒体大学深造。。。
我选择了第三者，相信这是我的理想，然后决定独个儿地前进，并努力地建筑心中的梦；

遇见珊珊时，我该对如何呢？
我选择了告诉她，相信我可以兼顾，然后决定一起手牵手，并努力地经营这感情与学业；

读书时，必须呈交软件系统，但往往就是有超过一个主题，
我选择了有挑战性的，相信我可以完成，然后决定开始执行，并努力地篇写；

象牙塔生涯结束前，讲师推荐我当研究员，
我选择了接受，相信这是开启我人生的另一条路，然后决定，并努力地执行研究工作；

踏入社会的第六个月，让我遇见了改写我人生的机会，
我选择了把握，相信我的生命会因此而改变，然后决定运用，并努力地执行出成果；

其实，在我们的生命中，究竟有多少个机会出现呢？
但这并不是重点，重要的是，当时的我们，会如何做呢？
相信？观望？把握？分享？

人生与选择

2005-02-23T10:58:00.000+08:00

之前的我，一直以为我自己很了解自己想要的是什么，
但，当我深一层地去看时，我才发觉，我想要的并没有包括我身旁的至亲，
开始地，我重新思考，我该如何做选择。。。
人的一生，对我而言，就像开车的路程，
从Ａ到Ｚ，会让我路经其他的地方，也会让我有不同的经历，
途中，会有小山头，分叉路，溪水等，
只有当我真正知道我要些什么时，
我才不会停滞不前，不会半途而废，至到到达终点为止。

人+人=互动

2005-02-21T09:17:00.000+08:00

昨日，参与了一项密集训练活动，仿佛回到了中学时期，
曾经的我，是一名学记，也是校内华文学会的活跃分子，认识新朋友，一同歌唱，一同团康，交出的，都是赤子之心。
许久没了这种经验，想不到，在社会大学里，依然可遇见它，虽然，那活动与金钱有瓜葛(传销啦)，但在那，人与人之间的互动关系，完全感受不到利益挂帅的气氛，只有互相帮助，互相关心。

Valentine Moment

2005-02-14T09:55:00.000+08:00

Yesterday, sansan (my gurl gurl) and I just moved into a rented room in Cheras, a new condo opposite to Carrefore...both of us tidied up the room till 11.34pm...late ya..:) Then I was waiting for 12pm to come, coz I want to say "Happy Valentine Day" to my love... this is the forth time I celebrate this day with her... it is more than thousand day we stay together... but for me, everyday is like the same... I value every moment that we are together... I am not going to assume the moment is last (I am optimist ppl..:D)... but just wanna to do that I should do and I wish to do...

Important or not?

2005-02-14T09:46:00.000+08:00

jUst now, irene buzzed me and reminded me that my blog haven't update for long time dy... hoho... buzy till almost forgot this blog oledi... hehe... so so so hav you guys ever being like me? buzy till forgot something important (seem like not important) things or people around you?? everybody know about it... but hav everybody did it?

少年 ~光良+曹格

2005-02-14T09:38:00.000+08:00

感觉告诉我，这是一首让人感动的歌。。。
尤其，在这个与老朋友相聚的日子里，
更让我感触良多，你感觉到了吗？

永恒的对白

2005-01-14T11:04:00.000+08:00

“想我的时候，就把盒子打开，
我把爱，都放在里面，不带走
你要等我，等我。。。”

“我那里都不去，就在这等你”

摘自 SHE 我爱你 MV

blogger life

2005-01-14T10:48:00.000+08:00

BLOGGER had proved to be one of the hottest communication stuff that started on 2004.
It was expected to be another new tool that coupled tightly with people's life, just like email and sms.
Will it? Therefore i try it.